This month I want to discuss more paradigms. In case you didn’t catch my earlier article, paradigms are habitual ways of thinking and acting. In other words, subconscious programming.
We are programmed from the day we are born. We learn to cry when we’re hungry or uncomfortable. As we get older we learn how to play with other kids and share (wasn’t one of my strong suites. LOL). Then we go to school we go through more conditioning. On and on it goes, through college into our careers and the families and the relationships. And so often people live for year’s robot-like, with their conditions leading them through life.
However, breaking those paradigms is not the goal. As a coach, I’ve heard of a lot of what others have to say on this subject and I’m a little bit perturbed here. Whenever I hear of an authority figure make a statement life, “you should only work on two paradigms at a time” I want to scream NOOOOOO!
It’s not about the paradigms!
Our life is not about shifting paradigms. When we put the focus on living through the paradigms, even trying to break them, we are still focusing on the paradigm. We’re focusing on the limiting area of our life. The part that’s holding us hostage from all that we can be, do, have, give, create, and experience in our life.
When I work with a client, I focus on the results. I focus on what they want to experience in their lifetime. As we move into that, we naturally bump up against those patterns and those paradigms and that conditioning that are not serving them and make the associated shifts. We have to in order to move forward because it’s that conditioning that’s holding them trapped to what they won’t let go of.
As we grow and expand in life, whatever’s holding us up is going to be associated with a paradigm. And the paradigm will be in the subconscious mind. That’s where we’re following those patterns, those beliefs, that conditioning that we’ve grown up learning and repeated over and over again.
I’ve shared a story in my life that I grew up in a blue-collar family outside Detroit, Michigan, and my parents struggled financially during my entire youth. And even though at nine-years-old I thought, “Something’s not right here,” I carried those same struggles into my adulthood and they imprisoned me for years. Regardless of my income, I struggled financially.
What happened? I didn’t put a focus on, “Oh, here’s the paradigm. Let me shift that.” When change started happening in my life, the powerful results that I stand behind in my client’s lives is because we focus on what you want to experience, what they want to get out of life. And as we move into that, we bump up against those patterns and those paradigms and that conditioning in our life.
And I always celebrate someone bumping up against their paradigm. I’ll talk to a client and they’ll get really bothered, “Oh my God. I’m hitting this thing, this wall in my life.” And I always go, “Good.” Because I know they cannot shift a paradigm and have a different outcome in life unless you’re aware of what’s going on.
So as paradigms start coming up, understanding its old patterning that is no longer serving you, it means that it’s coming up to be re-patterned and released so that you can launch beyond conditioning in your life.
So going, I wouldn’t suggest you go through your life looking at what your paradigms are or trying to figure out what paradigms you have. Doesn’t that seem like a really hard way to live? When instead you can look for what you want to be, do, have, give, create, and experience in your life, and move in that direction. Sure as shit you’re going to bump up against your paradigms. And when you do, you can shift around that limited thinking and open it up to be more expansive so that you can move into living the life the way you want to live it in all areas of your life.
I hope this was helpful for you. If it is, please leave a comment. Share this with other people, and let’s spread blessings to as many people as we can.
Be Well & Be Blessed,