Hello, Hello, hello everyone! And welcome to Coaches Corner for April 2019! Can I get a woo hoo? The reason I’m so excited about it being April is because as we continue with TheHappinessExperiment, April is dedicated to Self-Love! What better focus can there be towards upping your level of happiness than increasing your self-love?! And this month we are going to discuss some awesome awareness’s and powerful tools to increase your self-love and self-care for yourself.
It’s time to really open up the flood gates of self-love, self-acceptance and really, for realizing (maybe for the first time for some) how freaking awesome YOU are! How important you are to the betterment of this world. How needed your unique gifts and talents are NOW! It’s time to put away all the patterns of reasons of what and why you don’t deserve to live in a state of bliss and happiness. Discard the ways you don’t belong, how you’re not good enough, deserving enough and any of the other negative thoughts you have about yourself. This is your time, in a safe way to take off the masks that you wear and start getting in touch with your authentic self.
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Can you see why I’m feeling so excited?!
Now, in order to shift into realizing how incredibly awesome you really are, we need to bring to consciousness the patterns and paradigms we are taught from early childhood, that built that limitedness. The paradigms about “fitting in”. Being inauthentic begins early in life. Around the time we begin kindergarten. The system of schooling poisons our understandings about our “Unique-Self”. Children are placed in one of two categories. Pass or Fail. Please don’t misunderstand me. My intention is not to discredit the schooling system, although I do have a vision for an educational environment that is based on individualism. I’m not sure anyone would disagree with me that the present system is based on conformance. Then, from school, we set out into finding our life work, where many get lost in being “our job” or molding themselves into job descriptions. The more we conform, the further we move away from who we are authentically, as unique individuals. Conforming spreads through every area of life. It flows into our social lives, activities, families, where we live, the type of house we live in. And it continues on and on (as the song goes) throughout our lives.
I can’t tell you the number of people I come across that have spent decades of their life in this self-molding pattern of not being enough, not measuring up, until at some point they realize they have no idea who they are. This typically follows some sort of tragedy in their life. Like a divorce, accident, illness or financial situation. And I am referring to the more fortunate. There are countless others that move into the afterlife never experiencing their authentic self.
Don’t believe me? Try taking out a clean piece of paper and at the top writing “Who am I”. Then start writing. I’d be willing to bet you initially start by writing what you do, your “life’s titles”. Maybe even phrases like “A child of God”. But I support you in going deeper. What does being a “Child of God” mean to you? You will find individual exercises in TheHappinessExperiment Facebook group to assist you in determining the “Who” in place of “what”.
During my many conversations with people I come across, what I hear when I ask someone, “Who are you” is typically their life titles, husband/wife, child/parent, race, nationality. I hear many things that fall into the “description of what I do” vs “who I am”, but not much in regards to the person they are. And it really isn’t your fault. It goes back to all the programming we go through. It makes robots out of human beings.
Wallace Wattles says: “thinking is the hardest work in the world, that’s why most people don’t do it”.
All that can change this month for you! This month I want to offer you an opportunity to enter into an experiment with me. An experiment in identifying your authentic self, outside the patterns and paradigms you’ve lived with up to this point. I have not yet met a woman or man, to date, that experiences real, true happiness that doesn’t have a clear understanding of who they are authentically! The people that are living life fully, expanding their consciousness, experiencing abundance of love, finances and having huge impacts on this world have a clear understanding of their authentic selves. They know WHO they are. They know their awesome qualities. They know the feeling proud of who they are in all situations. They also know they are not perfect, and don’t expect themselves to be. On top of that, they are not afraid of their imperfections. They focus on accentuating the positives and allowing the negatives to take care of themselves. In other words, they are able to see their weaker qualities in conjunction with their strengths.
As an example, I love speaking, writing, coaching and all the works I do to spread my message:
“Life is Intended to be Lived with Passion!”
One area I wouldn’t consider myself super strong is all the organizing of the business and keeping up on the back end of things that needs to happen in order to build a strong business. I am more into the building and delivering of content than I am with posting social media, email lists and things that could really assist me in increasing the number of people I can impact. Once I was able to understand and admit this weakness to myself, I was able to hire someone who’s specialty is organizing, keeping up my email lists, following up with leads and overall organizing. This not only helps me remain strong in the business end of what I’m doing, it helps me give the person doing my organizing an opportunity to do what she loves!
Understanding and acceptance of our weaknesses is a means towards expansion!
But only when we do so in a self- constructive manner. This is different than using our weaknesses to give ourselves the permission to put a good ass whooping on ourselves. If during the exercises within TheHappinessExperiment this month, you find yourself getting down on yourself, just reach out to me. Typically it only takes me a few minutes to help shift patterns and get back to constructively reviewing and accepting viewing weaknesses as a great strength!
I promise you that at the end of this experiment you are going to see more of your true self. The “more” is heavily dependent on the amount you lean into comprehension, experimenting with the exercises and applying this to your life. You’ll have some tools on ways to celebrate yourself and the true gift you are to this world. For April, there are some really enlightening exercises in TheHappinessExperiment on the Facebook Group. You are going to be amazed at how much fun, excitement and enlightenment you’re going to gain this month!
Overall, my friends, there is no way around the fact that your life is whatever you make of it. You hold within you, the power to create anything (and I mean anything) that you want to experience in this lifetime. The number of years we each live is limited. Your life doesn’t have to be!!
For all of you that have said yes to stepping into experimenting with increasing the amount of happiness you experience in your everyday life, I applaud you! You have opened the door into living a life you absolutely love! A life of fulfillment, of true happiness! I am excited for you and for all of you that continue to reach out to me, in order to get the most out of this experience, I’m humbled!
KEEP THEM COMING!!
Remember, this is your opportunity to receive coaching at no cost! If through the exercises, you have questions, comments or could use a bit more explanation, reach out on the TheHappinessExperiment Facebook page or IM me. my whole goal is to serve you in bringing even more HAPPINESS into your everyday life!!
We are two months away from the conclusion of this experiment! And next month, I have a special gift for everyone involved! A super exciting portion of this overall experiment. You will have to be involved in the Facebook group TheHappinessExperiment in order to take advantage of this gift. So if you haven’t already joined the group, click on TheHappinessExperiment and click on Join. You’ll be able to go back through the first three months and increase your level of happiness in your everyday life, regardless of your current situation, the circumstances you find yourself in or the conditions surrounding you!